Family Reality Check

I passionately believe in raising loving expressive families. My own childhood was oppressive and lonely with a few happy times like Christmas and occassional holiday. I cannot remember my Mother, Father or siblings showing mutual informal affection to each other. I learnt to value things more than people. I taught myself to fix things. People are a different to things- they often don't like being fixed, they like to stay as they are, or fix themselves. I have learnt how to express myself -by myself. Counsellors gave me the kick-start that I needed to break the mould. I'm still reading and learning, fighting to free myself from the web of self-deceit woven into my brain by my family history and my ignorant responses to it. My siblings and parents cannot understand me or express their true feelings towards me. They say they love me but their actions say the opposite. In my own family I have determined to be open, honest and affectionate. When I see that we have a relationship problem, I find a suitable moment for all concerned, and ask if I or we may talk about it. I have found that when presented that way they are more than willing to release their pentup frustration and talk through their personal feelings.

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