Safe Calls
Note: These suggestions may seem to be bordering on paranoia, but it doesn't cost anything to be cautious. Don't take chances when your mental, physical and emotional health could be at risk.
Do what's right for you, but consider these or similar suggestions very seriously before agreeing to meet someone for BDSM activity for the first time. Any Dom/me or sub who is reputable and trustworthy will have no problems with these or similar procedures, and if they do, perhaps that is the warning signal that they are not what they appear to be.
The following information should be given to the person/s receiving your safe calls:
Your full name
Your home address and phone number
Make, model, colour, and license plate number of your car if you are driving yourself,
or
Detailed information if you are using other transportation .
ALL the information you have on person you are meeting, including:
Their full name and computer username/s or logon ID/s
Their address and telephone phone number/s
Their age, description, any and all information you have on the person you are meeting.
Tell your safe call person/s:
Where you are meeting
The name of place you are meeting
The address of the meeting place, including room number (if applicable) and phone number (if you do not have it ahead of time, give it during first phone call)
When you are meeting - time and date
Telephone your safe call person/s
Be sure to have agreed and understood code words for your safe call, one indicating that everything is okay (e.g. This is a lovely place), and one indicating that you need help (e.g. Don't forget to feed the cat for me.).
The first phone call should be made within 15 minutes of the established meeting time.
The second phone call should be made within 1 hour after the first.
The third phone call should be made within 2 hours after that or before leaving the place of the meeting, whichever comes first.
The fourth phone call should be made within 30 minutes of leaving the meeting.
If the meeting lasts longer than 3 hours, phone calls should be made no less than every 2 hours apart until you part company ... then proceed with the departing call and the last call.
Be Safe first and then enjoy
