Updated 3rd
June 2008
SEX ADDICTION
Sexual addiction is often
poorly understood. Though it can carry a great deal of shame, sex addiction is
not a sign of moral weakness or poor will power.
For those trapped in the cycle
of sexual addiction, the experience of powerlessness and frustration can be
utterly overwhelming. It is not even as though sex addiction is necessarily to
do with outrageous or extreme behaviours. Spending hours, days or weeks,
looking for sex or fantasising about it; having sex with many different
partners, some of whom may be people you don't even know; paying large sums of
money for sex, or for pornography; or running serious risks of prison or
disease, these represent only one extreme. Many of those who come to recognise
that they are addicted may be confused by the very fact that their behaviours
seem modest or even normal. Many who are addicted to sex may not actually do
anything which others might discern as unusual. There are those also who swing
between feeling sexually driven and sexually numb – cut off from all
sexual feelings.
The simple fact remains
that, if your experience of sex and of your own sexuality is one which causes
you distress, or which you perceive as causing distress to those around you,
then the concern you are experiencing is real, however much others might try
and persuade you otherwise. If, in your sex life, you feel driven and
compelled, rather than feeling free to make sexual choices, then that is a
problem.
I know, from my own
experience, that it does not have to be this way. If this is something which
you would like to investigate further, then I can provide you with a space in
which you can talk confidentially and in safety, and where you can be
understood, without being either shamed or condoned for your thoughts,
feelings, or behaviours.
I can be contacted by
e-mail on; william.johnston@ukonline.co.uk
You may also wish to get
further information from the following:
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